Is there anything more beautiful?

 Is there anything more beautiful, more precious than the privilege of watching your loved ones sleep?

It is just that, you know - a privilege.  

Tonight I'm seated between Aaron and Caleb.  Both are sick and dozed off early, just after dinner.  As I watch them sleeping, heads resting on soft pillows, brows unfurrowed with the cares of the day forgotten in dreamland, there's a sting in my eyes.  It is a pleasant, bittersweet feeling.  It is a feeling I recognize, whispering, This is sacred; pay attention.

I am thankful for this broad, soft couch.  I am thankful for cozy, warm blankets tucked up under chins.  I am thankful for the popping and murmuring of the fire, the heat that it gives off.  I am thankful for the sweet dog curled at my feet. 

I think of the news.  Pictures of hungry children and desperate parents, of war-torn countries and mass graves, of refugee camps and floods.  What a privilege to watch my loved ones sleep in peace.  May I never forget to be grateful.

I've written about it many times...the magic and wonder of watching people sleep.  Perhaps I've missed my calling as a night-nurse.  Does God do this, too?  Hover over us while we sleep, feeling the same heart swell of love and wonder?  You are mine.   You are mine.  You are mine.  I imagine so.

I am thankful they are mine.  I am thankful for this moment of peace in a world that feels full of chaos.  Goodnight, good night.

This is Christmas?

 I sit in my same morning spot.  It looks different this morning.  I'm usually staring at a black square of window, trying to squeeze in some quiet time, before sleepy-eyed children shuffle in to ask about breakfast as the the school day begins.  But today, the sun is streaming in.  It's nearly nine, and they are all still tucked into bed.

You really can't beat this view...roses by the window, heavy, full blooms nodding in the breeze.  Tall pine trees, arms outstretched framing the view of our sleepy little village, a collection of brown-tiled roofs and green, weathered copper pipes.  It's picture book perfect.  The vineyards that roll down the hills toward the lake have been trimmed back for the season.   Dipping and curving in neat rows, they carry an air of order and refinement that permeates the Swiss countryside.  Where the vineyards end, still-green swaths of farmland are cleanly split down the middle by the thin highway that runs parallel to the lake.  From up here, the lake looks more like a river, a blue-gray ribbon stretching as far as the eye can see in either direction.  Across the lake, the lights of France still twinkle in the shadow of the mountains.  Layer upon layer of purple peaks criss cross each other in imperfect triangles.  Above the jagged ridges, sits Mont Blanc in stark, white contrast, as if God began to build a snowman and stopped halfway through.  

As my vision zooms back in, my attention is drawn to the pink rose bloom dancing just outside the window.  How is that even possible?  It's December 25 in Switzerland.  Shouldn't there be snow?  Holiday music is playing on my phone, but it certainly doesn't feel like Christmas.  I remember this feeling.  I felt it in Singapore, where we celebrated a few hot, sticky Christmases, tossing marshmallows at each other in the kitchen (our Singaporean snowball fight) and swimming in the pool in the afternoon.

It makes me think...What is Christmas?  Is it the decorations?  I hope not.  Some are still in storage in the States.  Some of the sweetest ones, handmade on paper or wood, have been destroyed by the mould that grows in our storage area here.  One of the saddest holiday moments I ever experienced happened this year when I went to wipe off a preschool picture ornament, and Parker's entire face was wiped away in one swipe of my thumb.  Even Jack, who generally doesn't concern himself with decor, commented on the sad lack of Christmas decorations this year.  So, I hope it's not just the decorations.

Is its the gifts?  If so, Christmas is cancelled.  There is no 2-day Amazon in Switzerland.  I began ordering gifts for the kids at the end of November.  Some have still not arrived.  Since shipping here from the States is prohibitively expensive, family members send money electronically, and I do my best to buy gifts, but it doesn't always work out.  Or the kids want something electronic (game credits, gift cards, etc.), so that doesn't leave much to open under the tree.  

Is it Santa?  Nope.  Since Caleb learned the truth about Santa, and the tooth fairy, and the leprechauns, and the Easter Bunny last year [a sad year, indeed], the Christmas magic was missing this year.  We couldn't even locate the Elf on the Shelf in our mess of mouldy decorations.  I filled the stockings last night before the kids even went to bed.  Jack, in desperate need for tradition and magic, baked cookies for Santa.  And Caleb ate them.  Just sad.

I read the news last night before bed - never a good idea.  Thanks to the war and destruction, Christmas is cancelled in Bethlehem.  Really?  Really, world?  

So, if the decorations and the gifts and the magic are gone...if the very place Christ entered the world is destroyed...why bother?

Because, thankfully, Christmas is bigger than all of that.  I think the early Christians were pretty brilliant the way they hijacked the pagan solstice celebrations.  They didn't let the fact that Jesus wasn't born December 25 stop them.  They let the natural gift of light wash over their weary souls, a predictable, annual promise of warmth and hope to remind us of the love of the One who made us.  Though my faith has shifted and morphed in many ways over my lifetime, I still believe.  I believe that there is purpose in this annual reminder of God's love.  

Even when everything looks bleak - war, poverty, hunger, disappointment, pain, fear, uncertainty - the light enters.  Every year, there is the darkest night; then the light comes.  It's more certain, more reliable than a Swiss clock.  

So today, I celebrate the light.  I will allow my eyes and heart to open to the gifts set right before me.  I will hold them close, breathe them in.  I will savour the smell of their hair, the sound of their heartbeats, the press of their soft cheeks.  Even the dog hair on my sweater.  I am covered in love and light today.  It is a Merry Christmas, indeed.

Wishing you all a light- and love-filled holiday!

My Weird European Life

 We have a station wagon.  Let's start there.  It seats 7 people (our family plus one more skinny-tushed individual).  The two little boys, now ages 9 and 11, climb through a flipped down seat in the center of the middle row to reach the back row.  One might wonder:  Why would such a large family choose such a relatively small car?  Why give up the comforts of a minivan?  One day I will write a sonnet for my old mini-van...luxurious spacing, cupholders galore, enormous trunk, removable middle seat so I never had to hear about the injustices of sitting in the back row.  But back to now...We chose this car because the parking spaces here are teeny tiny, the public garage height requirements are super-low, and this car was available when we needed one.

Next oddity: My kids have mandatory ski camp each year.  Yes, they have to go away to ski camp and learn to ski because that is what you do in Switzerland.  I don't know if the local schools have such a requirement, but the international schools do.  Come to think of it, the local schools likely don't have that requirement because the locals learn to ski when they are 2.  Not even  kidding.  Smallest skis you've ever seen.  But back to this morning...We extracted ourselves from our clown car station wagon, pulling out all of the backpacks and extra luggage skiing requires.  I may have been [definitely was] muttering some swear words under my breath as I attempted to dislodge Jack's skis and poles from between the seats.  Good bye kids, have a great day!

I headed for my annual exam.  Which I haven't had in 2 years.  Because finding an English-speaking female doctor who is accepting new patients in Switzerland is akin to finding a unicorn.  But I finally found one.  And I got in!  In my broken French, I bumbled my way through the receptionist's greeting, was lead down a maze of hallways into an exam room, and was fairly sure the nurse told me to get undressed.  It's too bad the support staff didn't speak any English.  Luckily, I was right, as she didn't bat an eye when I started to disrobe.  Speaking of robes, there were none.  She just handed me a towel.  Awkward.

After my exam, I realised I was very close to the garage that had changed our car's oil.  This ain't no Jiffy Lube.  You have to take make an actual appointment (in French),  take it to a real garage, and leave it there.  For an oil change.  Recently, our car has been making a terrible noise when I pressed the brakes.  Clearly it needed some work.  I tried to reach the bi-lingual leasing agent for weeks to help me set up an appointment.  He's ignoring my emails.  So this morning, I decide to take a chance and head to the garage.  

After playing charades with the receptionist, I was directed to an English-speaking technician [cue the Hallelujah Chorus!].  Let me stop here.  I realise I am sounding very negative about the French language.  I am trying y'all.  I take lessons every week.  I listen to the news in French.  I have a French conversation group on Monday mornings.  It's just plain hard.   Back to the car...The dude takes a look at my wheel well and tells me I need to leave it with them to fix today.  It was in such bad shape, they didn't want me driving away.  That's good news and bad news. Great that they can fix it today.  Bad news that I have no ride home.  It's one degree Celsius, and I don't have a hat or gloves.  I hadn't been expecting this detour.

I walk to a tiny train station, buy a ticket on the Swiss transport app, and wait in the freezing cold.  The tiny train takes me to the big train station in Nyon, where I call Aaron to explain what's happening and cross my fingers that he can give me a ride.  Nope.  Full day of meetings for him, but I could pick up some coffee while I'm in town, he tells me.

I walk to our favourite cafe for the beans and some very late breakfast.  Sitting alone in the bustling cafe I catch snippets of conversations in French and English (it's a popular spot for expats).  I'm alone but don't feel lonely.  It feels so strange to be riding trains and walking through cities and surrounded by foreign language and feel okay.  That's when I realised, this is my new normal.  As strange as it is, this is my home for now.

I finish eating and head back to the train station where I ride into a town called Rolle and catch a bus to my village.  The last walk is up the big hill, winding past the old chateau and the vineyards.  The wind is whipping my hair around my head.  Reaching our drive, I check the mailbox and come inside.  

I don't even fully understand why I felt compelled to write this today.  Maybe because I think deep down we all have a desire to feel understood.  My life here is so different from the one back home that I guess I worry I may never be understood.  That when I want to share about what's going on here, it is not for the sake of complaining.  I'm okay.  It's just really weird sometimes.  And it's even weirder when it starts to feel normal.   That's all.

Something in the Way

 There is something in the way a child sleeps...

James Taylor's song "Something in the Way She Moves" is playing in the back of my mind as I stare at Caleb.  I would rewrite the song..."there's something in the way he sleeps..."

There is a magic there.  There is a feeling that catches in my throat and stings the backs of my eyes.  There is an involuntary tenderness that wells up, washing over any arguments or negativity of the day before.  

I remember when the kids were younger, I would watch them sleep and just cry.  I would cry over how much I loved them.  I would cry over their future and fears that the world may not cherish them or be kind to them.  I would cry over parenting missteps, regretting harsh words.  

I don't think I am alone.  I suspect these intense feelings hit every caregiver.  Maybe the underlying thoughts or concerns are different, but the feelings are the same.  I would argue they are there for a reason - that young children nap often for just this reason: so their parents may fall in love with them over and over again.

These moments happen less often as they grow.  This is mostly because I don't witness their sleep very often.  I still tuck the younger boys into bed, but I am often asleep before Parker and Maddie.  Mornings are busy, and I simply pop my head in the doors to announce, "It's wake-up time!"  Parker even uses his own alarm clock now.  And I find life is just "too busy" now to stop and take the time to observe and to document my darling, sleeping babies.  It makes me a little sad.

When I do catch them sleeping, it is usually on vacation.  I stand over them, creepily taking a million photos, trying to capture that innocence, that sweetness, until they inevitably wake and groan, "Mom!  No!" slipping under the covers again, elusive as unicorns.

But today Caleb is sick.  He has a cough (which sounded like croup the other night when he woke me, gasping for breath and barking like a seal).  He has a headache and sore throat.  He is staying home (much to the dismay of his older siblings who would also like "a day off").  Aaron is in India, so when it was time to drive everyone else to school, I whispered to Caleb that I would return soon and left him buried in covers on the couch.

He is sleeping on the couch because there is mould in the basement (where he normally sleeps).  He and Jack were arguing, and slamming the sliding door down there a few weeks ago, when it fell off its tracks - inside the wall.  I have been asking the landlord to fix it (along with the leak in the ceiling) for weeks.  They finally sent a repairman yesterday who removed a wall panel and found...you guessed it...mould.  While the repairman insisted it wasn't dangerous, I didn't think it a good idea for Caleb to breathe it in, given he already has quite a cough.  (The silver lining is that the boys won't be blamed for breaking the door, since it was likely the water damage that caused the door to fall off the tracks.)

So Aaron is gone, Caleb is sick, the basement is torn apart, I have left today's Welcome Club outing I planned for new parents at the school in the capable hands of my friend, Niamh, and I am free this morning.  I am free to take pictures of my sleeping angel on the couch.  I am free to take the time to breathe and remember all the moments of sitting and staring at sleeping babies and feel all the feels.  I am free to write and observe the beautiful rainbow that arcs over our village today, reminding me of God's promises.

I am not alone.  I will not be given more than I can handle.  I am the keeper of very precious gifts, and I will enjoy them today.  

A break

You'll notice a break.  A lapse in the birthday posts.  I told myself...when the school year starts and the house is quiet...that's when I'll "catch up."  Well, school started months ago, and here we are.

I'm not so sure I will catch up now.  Caleb turned 8, then 9, and we are well into his 9th year.  Jack turned 10, then 11.  Parker is 15, and Maddie will soon be 14.  And the sun rises and sets, the clothes turn in the washer, the finger nails grow and are trimmed.  

There was a break in the recording but not in the life.  Though I suppose you could say there was a break in that, too, depending on your definition of "break."  There was COVID.  There was my breakdown/awakening.  There was an international move.  There were a lot of disruptions to our daily lives.  

But isn't that exactly how life works?  I don't know.  I just know it's how our lives seem to work.  Nothing is stagnant.  We move a lot.  We find new spots for all the things...the beach towels and backpacks, the Q-tips and screwdriver, the stuff of life.  We don't have a junk drawer.  Because our "junk" is ever changing, constantly being recycled or given away.  I like to know where things go - a place for everything and everything in its place.

So when I have a mental junk drawer, a to-do list that has gone too long undone, I have trouble finding rest.  And my self-imposed pressure to make annual birthday posts has created enough unrest in me that I find myself trying to find a solution.  So this is it.  This is my catch-up.  I will not attempt to go back and recreate the years I've missed, but instead, I'll offer a snapshot of now.

Caleb.  Where to begin?  When I wake you in the morning with a kiss on your cheek, you immediately throw an arm around my neck, holding me close, pinning me to your soft cheek.  And I breathe you in -all of lovely little you.  Your tousled dirty-blond hair and twinkling blue eyes.  You dance with abandon, tell terrible "dad" jokes, love your video games and best friend, Henrique.  You are always up for going out, trying new foods, doing new things.  You have a strong sense of justice and become upset quickly when things seem unfair, which they often do, as you are the youngest.  You love to play pingpong with dad and card games with mom.  You are super-smart and incredibly loving.  You miss your TX friends but were very open-minded about the move.  It was tough, but I'd say you're settling in quite well.  You are my joy.

Jacky-Jack.  You are still the most creative person I've ever met.  You play "imaginary" and host your own private dance parties in your room, running and jumping, and battling creatures only you can see.  Transitioning into middle school has not been easy, but you are putting forth all the effort we could ever hope for.  You are so smart and witty and have made some very special friends.  I know it was hard for you when Zach moved away.  You had a special bond, like the one you had with your friend, Graham, in Kentucky and Maddie in Texas.  Sometimes I worry that people won't understand or appreciate your uniqueness, but you have proven time and time again that my fears are unfounded.  You always find your tribe.  You had a lovely 11th birthday party at the house and invited girls and boys, all of whom love you.  You continually try to convince me to let you "go bald."  One day you got your wish when dad was trimming your hair and the guard slipped off.  Your soft, short hair is so fun to rub that it has even caused some problems (since everyone wants to rub it).  I'm glad I still hold that special place in your life where I can rub it as much as I want.  You curl up into my lap, I rub your head and read the Dragon Assassin series to you.  Holding you is still one of my favourite pastimes.  You are my heart.

Maddie-Claire.  Baby girl.  You are so not a baby anymore.  As tall as I am with flowing wavy hair and a gorgeous, brace-free smile, you seem to be so much older than 13.  You didn't just come out of your shell, you shot out of it like a rocket.  You made a conscious decision to make more friends during this move.  Your best friend, Julia, moved to a new school this year.  It was painful but you rallied yet again and have become a friend to many more people this year, including upperclassmen.  You are in Mama Mia and have even helped to teach the choreography to the the newer students.  You excel in school and have discovered your own funny, sassy side.  No longer a people-pleaser, you are thoughtful about others' feelings while still honoring your own needs.  This is a huge strength and will serve you well in life.  You are your own person.  I love that you are exploring your spirituality and asking big questions, studying the Bible but not taking it at face value.  You have so many thoughts and opinions and feelings, and it's a blessing to have a front row seat as I watch your life unfold.  You are my treasure.

Parker.  Fourteen is not an easy age to make an international move.  Though exciting at first, we were quickly slapped with the realities of culture shock, language barriers, and a whole new way of life.  Leaving TX as the top of your game, voted VIP in the school's athletic program, surrounded by friends and adoring teachers, you sailed into Switzerland on a cloud.  Then came the storm.  You were (are) so so brave.  You are so good, down to your core.  You found it baffling that people could be mean or cold or rude, and it ripped my heart out to see you struggle through it.  You pinned your hopes on summer and a month "home" in Texas with friends, all the while dutifully, diligently building relationships here.  You tried and excelled at rugby, learning the French-speaking coach's commands.  You created friend groups based on mutual interests, resisting the drinking and drug culture that is so pervasive here.  You met a sweet girl.  Summer meant fun times with old friends and an awesome church camp, but by the end of it you were actually ready to return to your life here.  You see the beauty in the mountains, you have become a leader in your school, you are thoughtful, respectful, and kind.  Ever-changing, out of my control, wonderful to watch and to love - You are my dream.

Words will never capture you kids.  They are simply inadequate.  I hope one day reading these posts will bring back fond memories for you...that you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are fully loved, and not just by dad and me but by the One who created you.  Not a single tear goes unnoticed.  No small act of kindness is overlooked.  You are seen and known and completely cherished.  

Love, 

Mom

And Just Like That...

They were gone.  The front door closed with a hesitant, soft click.  I stood on one leg, my broken ankle cradled in the cushion of my scooter.  Too stunned to even shake my head.  I was staring up at the closed front door, the last words I'd spoken, ringing in my ears: "I love you."  

My eyes panned across the living room to the mirror behind the couch.  I was staring at myself, at the white streaks in my hair that weren't there a decade ago.  I imagine in one more decade, when that door closes for good, when my youngest is 18 and will walk away into his new life, there may only be some streaks of brown left.  But who knows.

I rolled over to the stairs and grabbed my crutches, slowly making my way up to my room, determined to tap and type until I could restore some order in my brain.  As if the clicks and pauses, if played long enough, would drum out a familiar melody, a song and a story that my mother's heart craved.  How do I make sense of this rapidly changing life?

I almost wish whoever might be reading this could see all the drafts, all the rabbit holes.  The comparisons between the U.S. and Singapore and Switzerland.  The complaints about COVID.  The marvel of watching the kids grow.  And that's it.  That's the elusive melody that began this journey, so that will be my focus.

But first, allow me a brief trip down memory lane...Seven years ago we arrived on a dark, balmy night.  The floors were marble, the palm trees swayed.  Staff fluttered around the children, whose tired heads lolled as they piled onto plush couches.  Bag after bag was unloaded, papers were signed.  As we wiped our faces with cool, lemongrass scented towels, we had no idea of the adventure that awaited.  Life in Singapore with 4 children ages 7, 5, 3, and 1 was just beginning.

That is how I remember life there, in strange and vivid snapshots.  Moments in time where senses were heightened and emotions were high.  Experiences that were so foreign and bizarre, they simply burned into my brain.  And if Singapore has anything in common with Switzerland, that's it.  That strange, choppy picture show quality of memories forged by jarring experiences.

So for today's strange experience...I put my kids on public transport.  It wasn't the first time.  The circumstances were just really strange today.  In the States, I would have piled them into the mini-van and taken them where they needed to go.  They might even walk to school or ride their bikes.  They might catch a ride with a friend.  They would not have gone far.  If they had gone far, they certainly would have been accompanied by an adult.

In Europe, much as in Singapore, public transportation is amazing.  It is clean, affordable, efficient, and safe.  We took it several times while we were waiting to get the lease approved for our station wagon.  Though the 10 minute walk to the bus stop is picturesque, it can be hard to appreciate the beauty when it is dark and cold, as it is on school mornings.  Once at the stop, it takes another 10 minutes to reach a train station.  It's not bad, just different from what we were used to in the States.  So, usually, I drive the kids everywhere, including school.

A few weeks ago, I broke my ankle while skiing.  My right ankle.  No walking and certainly no driving.  Aaron jumped in, and thanks to the work-from-home COVID mandates, he was able to drive the kids to and from school.  He had several trips scheduled, but then our youngest contracted COVID.  Then I did.  Then Parker.  Then Maddie.  It was like the plague, but in some ways it was a blessing, because it meant Aaron stayed home.  

Fast forward to today.  Everyone has recovered from COVID.  Aaron flew to Madrid.  It happens to be the "ski day" for Parker's class.  They are loading onto a bus and heading for the mountains.  He would need to be at school 30 minutes earlier than usual.  What was normally a 15 minute car ride became a 35 minute walk-bus-train-bus trip.  Alone.

This also meant Maddie would have to take her younger brothers on the same walk-bus-train-bus journey, departing 30 minutes after Parker.  Now, I know what I said about the Swiss public transport being safe and efficient yada, yada, yada.  All of a sudden, it wasn't feeling like the best option anymore.  Was it really fair to ask our kids to do this?  How would they cope?  The same way European kids who did this all the time do, I supposed.

So this morning was one of those bizarre, notice the details, kind of mornings.  A few minutes after my alarm went off, I heard Parker silence his own alarm and begin moving around his room.  Let's just stop right there.  For over a decade, I was the one waking everyone.  Suddenly, I found myself meeting this taller-than-me young man in the kitchen.  I made some eggs and toast, as he purchased his tickets on his phone.  Okay, can we stop again?  He was navigating his own way, without my help.  So weird.  He pulled on his mid layer coat, gathered his gloves and shoved some granola bars into his pockets.  I had to silence that voice in my brain that told me to write his name on the wrappers.  Good moms remember to label everything.  What if he lost them?  What if they got mixed in with his friends' snacks?  Hush, momma.  He's 14, not 4.  He zipped into his out layer coat and told me goodbye.  I asked for a kiss, and he obliged.  Then he made his way out the door.

After icing my leg, I called up to Maddie.  Without complaint, she made her way downstairs and proceeded all the way to the basement where she woke her brothers.  I heard her reminding them to pack their snacks as they ascended.  Caleb stopped by the couch where I was sitting with my leg propped up on a pillow.  He snuggled with me for a moment then followed Maddie and Jack into the kitchen where they began to make breakfast.  We made a game of racing to put on socks and shoes.  Caleb beat the timer I set by a mere 2 seconds with a victorious grin.  I reminded Jack today was swim day (aka super-random, ever- changing, make-parents-insane, don't-forget-to-bring-the-necessary-labelled-towel-suit-cap-to-school-or-you-will-have-to-drive-it there-later day).  Needless to say, I found swim days a tad stressful on a good day.  I would not drop that ball today.  

Jack assured me his bag was by the door.  

Can you just put it inside your regular backpack, please?  

No, mom.  It's fine.  

But Jack, I can't bring it up there today.  What I didn't say was, "Jack, please let me control this one little thing during this completely uncontrollable day.  Please let me feel like I'm helping somehow.  Please let me feel like I'm doing something to parent you." 

I've got it mom.

Meanwhile, Maddie and Caleb were donning their coats and moving toward the door.  

Jack, just put it in your bag.

Bye mom.   The front door closed with a hesitant, soft click.

I love you.

I stood there.  Not mad.  Just a little helpless.  Not in the normal sense of the word.  No, I had simply helped-less.  They didn't need me to remind and pester and badger.  Because they had it.  They had it covered.  

And it was weird and good and perplexing.  It was the paradox of parenthood - the mixture of joy and sadness and surprise when you have made yourself obsolete.  Now, I'm not saying they don't need me anymore at all, but it was a little shocking to realize just how self-sufficient these little humans had become.  

I opened my phone and checked the Life360 app I'd set up years ago.  Immediately, the sweet little faces of their outdated pictures appeared, moving slowly across the map, away from me, even more jarring given their youthful appearance.  Noticing his battery was low, I quickly texted Parker and surprised myself by asking him to turn off location services on his app.  If his battery died, he wouldn't be able to buy a train ticket home.  

I had to let him go if I wanted him to come home.  

And just like that, he was gone.

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Parker at 14

Dear Parker,

It is the morning of your sister's 13th birthday.  Jack is the only kid awake, quietly working a puzzle at the kitchen table.  The streamers and balloons are hung, and the house waits in hushed anticipation.  It's the perfect time to write your birthday post, which has been stewing in my mind for the last 6 months.  

You and Maddie were born exactly 18 months apart, right down to the day.  So every year, her birthday falls on your half birthday and vice versa.  I have friends who celebrate their children's half birthdays with cute traditions like serving half a cake.  That would never work for us because we'd end up with too much cake (as if there is such a thing).  Also, I'd never want to take away from the specialness of someone's actual birthday.

So here we are.  An early morning blog session.  So many changes since last year...Where to begin?

Maybe with a global pandemic?  We were returning from Spring Break at the Silver Spur Guest Ranch when we first began to understand the seriousness of Covid 19.  We decided to stop at a store on the way home, as our friends in California warned us of shortages.  We entered the Walmart and were shocked to see empty shelves.  We arrived at home to learn school was cancelled indefinitely.  Welcome to your 13th year.

Living in TX had its perks.  The schools were determined to have students return safely (mandating masks, lines, barriers, etc.).  After a few short weeks at home, school was back in session.  You played football.  You wrestled.  You joined the weight lifting club and made it into the 400 club, lifting 4 times your body weight.  You tried track and field for the first time and surprised us all as you sailed effortlessly over the bar.  By the end of the year you had been chosen by the staff as the Rushing Middle School 7th Grade MVP receiving a trophy at the Athletic's Program Banquet.

But you are not just a jock.  You always balanced school, sports, and your social life beautifully.  You loved reading and painting figures.  You had fantastic grades.  You were a member of Hope Squad, (a student-nominated position where you helped fellow students get connected to each other and to professionals when needed).  You were adored by your teachers and nominated for the Lone Star Leadership Academy (which you attended just after turning 14).

You always made time for friends and family, too.  You often played airsoft with friends on the weekends.  You recruited so many friends (and even a parent) to play, we thought D14 [airsoft company] should give you a discount.  I loved watching all your friends spill into our hall on Saturdays, decked out in camo, and chatting up a storm.  You guys would stow your lunches in the cooler, pile into the van, and begin your day long bro-fest.  

For those friends who didn't enjoy airsoft, you would play playstation, shoot nerf guns, swim at the community pool or lagoon, hang out at the park, play basketball, you name it.  You were (and are) a social butterfly.

You also made time for family.  You played D & D online with Grandpa, Uncle Bob, and Cousin Bella.  You hunted with dad.  You swam with your siblings.  You watched shows with mom. 

I guess what I'm getting at here is that you are one of the most well-rounded 13 year old boys I've ever encountered.  I have the benefit of hindsight as I write this.  I know what the first 6 months of your 14th year hold.  Spoiler alert: it's a doozy.  I'm happy to report that you are still doing an amazing job at being an incredible human (despite the craziness of the last 6 months), but that post is for another day...

I love you so much, Parker.  I'm so proud of you and happy to be your mom.  Happy birthday (half a year late), dear boy.

Love, 

Mom